Thanksgiving can be stressful, especially if you happen to be hosting. Not only do you have to make sure that you have enough food for everyone, but there are also the Thanksgiving decorations and the table centerpiece that has to look perfect! Oh, and then there is the turkey! Did I get big enough size, did I overcook it, did I undercook it… it is almost enough to make ME want to just have it catered!
Stress Less This Thanksgiving
Short of calamity, things are usually not as bad as you make them out to be. Sure, the exact moment might be a pain in the rear end, but ask yourself if 30 minutes or 30 days from now what you’re dealing with will be important. Will anyone even remember my lousy stuffing or burnt rolls?
Perspective helps you react accordingly and in a way that likely won’t add to your stress. Now that you have grounded yourself, take a deep breath and hold it for 4 seconds. That’s right, 4 seconds! Forced slowing of your breathing slows everything else down and acts as a firewall to prevent your body and sometimes your mouth from outrunning your brain. That rude reply, the raised blood pressure, that bad reaction can all be swept away with a deep breath! If you are having problems with making the dinner, call in the cavalry… grandpa, a friend, Butterball or the USDA! Yep, they have a webpage called “Let’s Talk Turkey — A Consumer Guide to Safely Roasting a Turkey”, it even includes a hotline to call!
Take a few moments to see the bright side of your situation! This falls under the “count your blessings” advice mom or dad likely shared with you. Take stock in everything you have going for you. This holiday is called “Thanksgiving” by the way! Your reaction to any stressful situation or event should center on what you can control. It’s not always easy to let go, but after you have mastered this skill, your stress level will change for the better, and keep getting better! You can only control your actions and thoughts.
Pay less attention to what’s happening around you and more of what matters, if you can (this is not an easy task for us control freaks, but family is family!) So, what if the family doesn’t like the meal that you served them! Who cares!!!! They chose not to do it! If they wanted perfection, they would have called the Food Network chefs or even better… had the dinner at their house! Family is there to be with family, not judge.
Finally, learn to laugh at yourself. It doesn’t have to be out loud. There isn’t a rule that life has to be serious 24/7. Getting through your day is tough enough. Laugh. And remember, it’s the only dinner!